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Sexting Your Way to a Better Hookup

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There is definitely an art to hooking up with people.  Having casual sex isn’t for everyone, and it’s also not something that most people just innately understand how to do with the greatest of ease for all parties involved. The biggest challenge that I find presented in modern hook-up culture is that if you have a lot of one night stands, or don’t get to hook up with a recurring partner frequently, it can be difficult to learn enough about your partner to have sex as satisfying as you’d like. I have a super easy potential solution to this: sexting.

When you have a few drinks before you go to a bar or party, we call that pre-gaming. Sexting is the pre-gaming of a hookup in my world. When I’m preparing for my sex hookups, I love to negotiate and plan my encounters, but even more than that, I love to build the tension and expectation. I love being teased and reading dirty words that give me lots of fuel to keep my embers burning until the big day arrives. If you want to use sexting to prime the pump, you’re going to love my favorite sexting techniques to create a five star hookup.

Build the tension.

This is by far the most obvious use of sexting. If you give good talk or text, your partner is going to throb thinking about how amazing you’ll be in person. I find that the particular method of sexting that is most effective for building hookup anticipation in my life is talking about what you want to do to them, rather than role-playing.

If you don’t have a sexting style that you like, I have some advice for this. When sexting, I often like to convey a story with narration, sensation, and enthusiasm. The order can change, but the basic structure is something like, “I can’t wait to do [sex act] with you! [Details with relevant sensations here]. I want to [reaction you want to evoke].”

So, for example, here’s a bare-bones sext I would send:

“I can’t wait to go down on you when we’re alone. I want to pull your cock into my hot, velvety mouth and suck you until the only sounds you can make are incoherent syllable fragments that make up my name.”

Establish preliminary consent (a.k.a. planning)

Sexting is a great time to get some idea of your partner’s interests and negotiate boundaries. There are lots of good, hot ways to ask for consent, and to give your partner an opportunity to enthusiastically consent.

“I’ve been imagining what it would be like to eat you out until you have to beg me to stop before you pass out… is that something you’d be interested in trying sometime?”

Super easy, super painless. If they say no, it’s not a big deal! You can use that as an opening to say, “That’s okay! What would you rather we do instead?” Suddenly, you’ve opened a dialogue, and it’s a sexy dialogue.

Sharing technique

People like to be touched in different ways. Obviously, there’s no substitute for getting direction in the moment, but it can help to exchange this information ahead of time. The best way you can convey this to your partner is to tell them how you like to be touched. Do you like having your prostate hit? Your nipples bitten? Say it in a sext!

“I’m glistening just thinking about what it would feel like for you to slowly circle my clit with a finger.”

Simple and sweet. If your partner is paying attention, they’ll internalize this information for later. That doesn’t mean you should assume they’ll remember it in the moment, but some people, especially obsessive planners like myself, like to file this information away. If you have a partner like me, who pays meticulous attention to detail like this in order to learn exactly which buttons to push to get the reaction they seek, they will absolutely love you for doing this, and you will be rewarded.

The Takeaway

Hooking up can be super amazing, and sexting can be super amazing. Why not unite two amazing things? Do you remember the first time you ate Nutella and peanut butter? Potato chips on a deli sandwich? Pineapple on your pizza? (If you dislike pineapple on your pizza, disregard that and don’t argue with me because I will die on this hill.) The first time you hook up once you use these sexting techniques, it’ll be like the first transcendent bite of your favorite stoner snack.

This post was sponsored, but all opinions and experiences shared are my own.

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